No sugarcoating. It's fucking hard.
The numbers:
2015 - The year he will be taking the bar.
25 - His age.
23 - My age.
13 - Months of being together.
1 - The time we have agreed to at least meet in a week.
His facts:
DLSU law student - 4th year.
Ex-Law School President.
Middle child.
Athletic - Volleyball, Golf, Dragon boat, Badminton, Swimming, Running, etc.
My facts:
Equity Derivatives Product Controller -3rd year.
DKS People Committee Socials Pillar Head.
Middle Child.
Athletic - Volleyball, Running, and Circuit Training.
Every relationship has its own struggles. It is like a game you'd want to conquer. Partners have to work together to overcome every challenge. But not all are successful. Though hopefully, even though that happens, lessons are learned and brought to the next relationship.
It's a big risk. And the high-risk-high-return concept in finance does not always apply in the bigger scheme of things called love. But risk appetite varies which is dependent on a lot of factors such as past experience, upbringing, beliefs, religion, etc. So, when you have decided to investing into relationships, you must always be ready to take such risks.
I took that risk... that challenge a little over a year ago. I said yes to this guy who's been courting me for the past 4 months. And of course when I said yes, I was definitely ready.
But being ready does not always mean being like a person shielded with steel. I get hurt. He gets hurt. We get mad, frustrated, and sad - sometimes all at the same time. Our issues mostly revolve around his sensitivity, intimacy, and lack of time. We have been working on the first two items lately because we almost broke up because of those things. I remembered those nights at Starbucks where we sat down and discussed how do we go about our issues. I thought of it as a business deal. He laid down all the things that he wants and hates and I did the same thing, then we discussed and compromised.
Relationships are really hard work. It's difficult. But it's rewarding when you have the right partner.
Ever since school began 2 weeks ago for Ayel, it has been hard for me to be with him. His subjects are already for review for his bar and he told me that all of his professor are bar examiners. I felt like it's a jungle out there as I also see posts from his law school friends about how crazy it is for them this term. I never demanded time from him especially when I know there are more important things to attend to. Though I sometimes invite him, say for a quick lunch with my family. But I never asked him to be there (but of course there is always hope that he's not too busy and he'd say yes).
"Sometimes this is more than enough." - my thought whenever he texts me good morning, or that I should eat my lunch, or sometimes when he would send me good morning photos.
When dating an almost-laywer, you get to learn how to appreciate the little things; to be more understanding; to accept that you are not a priority (but not taken for granted); to enjoy the quick quality dates; to take things light because you do not want to spoil his only study break; to be more thankful of the relationship that you have.
The sad part is... you are also, involuntarily, learning to miss him more.
The numbers:
2015 - The year he will be taking the bar.
25 - His age.
23 - My age.
13 - Months of being together.
1 - The time we have agreed to at least meet in a week.
His facts:
DLSU law student - 4th year.
Ex-Law School President.
Middle child.
Athletic - Volleyball, Golf, Dragon boat, Badminton, Swimming, Running, etc.
My facts:
Equity Derivatives Product Controller -3rd year.
DKS People Committee Socials Pillar Head.
Middle Child.
Athletic - Volleyball, Running, and Circuit Training.
Every relationship has its own struggles. It is like a game you'd want to conquer. Partners have to work together to overcome every challenge. But not all are successful. Though hopefully, even though that happens, lessons are learned and brought to the next relationship.
It's a big risk. And the high-risk-high-return concept in finance does not always apply in the bigger scheme of things called love. But risk appetite varies which is dependent on a lot of factors such as past experience, upbringing, beliefs, religion, etc. So, when you have decided to investing into relationships, you must always be ready to take such risks.
I took that risk... that challenge a little over a year ago. I said yes to this guy who's been courting me for the past 4 months. And of course when I said yes, I was definitely ready.
But being ready does not always mean being like a person shielded with steel. I get hurt. He gets hurt. We get mad, frustrated, and sad - sometimes all at the same time. Our issues mostly revolve around his sensitivity, intimacy, and lack of time. We have been working on the first two items lately because we almost broke up because of those things. I remembered those nights at Starbucks where we sat down and discussed how do we go about our issues. I thought of it as a business deal. He laid down all the things that he wants and hates and I did the same thing, then we discussed and compromised.
Relationships are really hard work. It's difficult. But it's rewarding when you have the right partner.
Ever since school began 2 weeks ago for Ayel, it has been hard for me to be with him. His subjects are already for review for his bar and he told me that all of his professor are bar examiners. I felt like it's a jungle out there as I also see posts from his law school friends about how crazy it is for them this term. I never demanded time from him especially when I know there are more important things to attend to. Though I sometimes invite him, say for a quick lunch with my family. But I never asked him to be there (but of course there is always hope that he's not too busy and he'd say yes).
"Sometimes this is more than enough." - my thought whenever he texts me good morning, or that I should eat my lunch, or sometimes when he would send me good morning photos.
When dating an almost-laywer, you get to learn how to appreciate the little things; to be more understanding; to accept that you are not a priority (but not taken for granted); to enjoy the quick quality dates; to take things light because you do not want to spoil his only study break; to be more thankful of the relationship that you have.
The sad part is... you are also, involuntarily, learning to miss him more.
