I am writing this blog on a Christmas day. It is the
day where everyone is giving thanks for all the blessings and challenges God
has put up to them the whole year because nothing would have been possible if
not for His Son’s birth to save the human race.
Going back to what had happened in 2013, I couldn’t
decided on how to structure this post because definitely several things have happened which I am very thankful for. I even told a friend
that 2013 is my year! Every year should be, but with a goal of getting better!
2012 was tough. I wasn’t able to blog about it because I was too...
heartbroken. But the highlights were having a really huge fight with my family
and not having gone home for two months because of that and having my heart
broken by the first guy I decided to love.
Those things are all in the past now and no matter how
cliché it may sound, it made me stronger. Now unto a different year – 2013:
January –
New people.
After my
breakup with my ex, I was so blessed to have met a lot of people. I believe it
was God’s way of letting me know that I am truly loved and that one bad
relationship would not define how I am with other people. I have met the
volleyball team which I have re-established in July 2012 with the help of new
found friends. It was such a bonus that most of them are gay. I have been
wanting to have such friends not only because they are really fun to be with
but also I know that with them there are no pretentions. If they tell you your
outfit doesn’t look okay, then they will tell it to your face and you wouldn’t
feel bad about it.
I also got to meet Guy’s friend, Allen.(Guy, btw, is
one of my closest friends in the volleyball team.) And Allen made me meet his
friends too. It was a breath of fresh air to meet new people. Some people you
may end up sharing your most intimate secrets with. It was also this time that
I got to be really close with my colleague from Frankfurt, Chris. We chatted
all the time and talked about non-work especially about how different German
and Filipino cultures are.
It was at this time that I got to mingle and be
friends with people of different generation, sexual preference, beliefs,
nationality, etc. It’s really amazing when God decides to bring people together
and they become friends for the rest of their lives.
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Meeting new people phase. |
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From sluts to heartbreakers: (L-R) Me, Allen, and Guy. |
But the story does not end there.
It was in January 10 – almost January 11 – that I got
to meet Ayel, my now boyfriend of 8 months. It’s a funny story because one of
my closest college friends, Vern, wanted to set me up with her closest law
friend. I actually just said yes
instantly because I was in the meeting-new-people vibe. Even my office friends
wanted me to meet someone. I don’t know if it was out of pity because of a bad
break up, but nonetheless, I am very touched and excited by the gesture.
My college friends had a new year dinner get-together
and after which I was set to meet this “Ayel”. I was actually nervous the day
itself – contrary to what I was feeling days before. All thoughts came into my
head… “What if he doesn’t like me?” . “What if I don’t like him?”. “What if I
slip and fell because of this long skirt I am wearing then he will laugh?”..
Those kinds of things. But luckily, we liked each other (and I did not fall)
and since January 10, great things have been happening for both us.
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The Blind Date. |
February –
The original love and the decision making.
February is about spending time with my volleyball
team! We actually spent February 14 together and had a simple Valentine’s day
party. At 22 then, this is when I have realized that Valentine’s Day is more
than flowers, chocolates, grand gestures and spending it only with your
partner. It was also about simple acts and things enjoyed together with the
people we love.
Aside from the February 14 date with the team, we also
got to do an early summer getaway in Batangas. It was our first time to do it
and I am truly blessed that we remain close friends up to now.
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DKS Volleyball Team |
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DKS Volleyball Team. Again. |
On to another story: Ayel also told me that he’s
courting. I have no idea with the drills of courtship, but yes, he did told me,
that he is courting me. Everything with this guy is formal which I like though
sometimes I don’t because it’s too much. I did not know what to say then. I
remembered nodding and saying “okay”. But definitely it made me smile. He also
told me during the latter part of the month that his political party was making
him go for law school presidency next school year. As formal as this guy is, he
discussed it with me. He wanted me to have my thoughts on it before he makes a
decision. Of course, I said that he should go for it because not all can lead
and for someone to be put up to such a wonderful and challenging opportunity,
that is being a president, means that they believe in him as person and all his
capabilities and even imperfections. So he said yes to it.
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One of the many nights he would visit me at work. But this time, he told me that he's courting me. |
Last story for February: my boss broke the news to us
about the early migration of our work to Mumbai, India. It was initially set to
Q3 but the management team decided to move it to an early date for some
technical purposes that I would not indulge in discussing further. I was
shocked because I was not ready. Early migration would mean leaving the team
too soon when I am just enjoying their company and it would also mean a clash
to my USA travel plan in May. I had to
make a decision. It was difficult. I discussed with my manager that I really
wanted to do the migration because it is a great privilege and it would help in
the development of my career but of course she did not want this migration trip
to get in the way of our family trip. I discussed also with my mom and she
understood how the migration would help me in my career so she allowed me to do
it which would mean going to USA alone in September as they have scheduled it
in May. But nothing was final. Date for the migration trip is not final and so
is our USA trip. I was going crazy during this time. I even remembered crying
because I wanted to do both things. But luckily everything got decided at the
end of February. Migration was set in May so my mom and dad decided we do the
US trip at an earlier date which is March. Lucky for me, mom did not buy the
tickets yet until I have finalized my schedule with my manager but unlucky for
her because the tickets were last minute so they were really expensive.
I am really happy that the schedules worked out. I got
to do the migration and go to US with my family! Yahooo!
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The Sad News. |
March –A
busy work schedule and the snow.
March was a really busy month. We were prepping up for
the migration, fixing our documents for the trip and of course we are also
doing our daily work. Ayel was juggling his studies and his presidency
campaign. I was also having my quarter-life crisis.
Being swamped with work sometimes makes you think if
this is what you really want. I have never been the intelligent person. I am
more of the eager person willing to learn. That is why sometimes I wonder what
I am doing in such a work that would demand a lot of brain work that I am not
an expert to. But then if I think of the other side of the brain where imagination
and creativity lies, I am no expert as well. I still do not know where I would
fit myself. I have always been known to be the
jack-of-all-trades-master-of-none type of person. At work, I was actually close
to quitting. But because of the relationships I have established with the team
in Manila and team in Frankfurt, I stayed. Though, now, I still I have the
inclination to quit and try it with a different company. But I am battling
choosing between challenging myself to suck it up with my new boss and
challenging myself to get out of the familiar. Let us see where 2014 will take
me this time!
With all the stress happening during the first
half of the month, a vacation really appealed to me! US trip was a great
timing! We left March 21 and we had 2 weeks to enjoy ourselves. It was very
cold because we got to experience a negative-degree Celsius kind of weather. It
was such a bonus that we also experienced our first snow! My mom told me that
moving the trip at earlier date because of my work trip was such a blessing in
disguise! It snowed the 2nd day we were there and it was the last
because it was almost spring time! So lucky for us we also experienced cherry
blossoms! Snow and cherry blossoms in
one 2-week trip! During this trip, I have realized how stressful it was to live
here in the Philippines. Causing most of our stress is our government and our
overpopulation. Of course it is completely wrong to compare US and the
Philippines but I can’t help but compare and pin point the things we need to do
and not do to better. After the trip, my longing to work abroad has opened up.
But that is a long way to go.
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Two seasons in a week: My first snow. |
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Two seasons in a week: My first cherry blossom. |
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The Angeles.
April – YES.
I was back to Manila the first week of April; just in
time to fix my remaining documents for my work trip. I had work immediately
after I got back from Manila. But it was a sweet gesture of Ayel to go to my
condo because he was excited to see me.
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Welcoming me back home. |
We spent more time together and got to know more of him.
I sometimes invite him over whenever my parents are in Manila so they could
also meet him. We also had this dinner I called “presidential dinner” to
celebrate his success in winning the presidential race in school. It was a
formal dinner. He picked me up at work though it was really late. We had dinner
and there he asked me formally if I can be his girlfriend. I was actually
shocked that he was asking this. I did not have any inclination that he has
something planned out like reserving a place, talking to the waitress to have
my flowers delivered on his cue, etc. I actually said no. I told him with
everything that is going on with my life, I do not want him to be included yet
in the mess. He understood it and accepted it.
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He formally asked. |
But after a week…
Ayel also introduced me to this festive Sunday
celebration called The Feast where there was a mass and afterwards, speakers
would talk about more of the gospel. That was April 28 when I first attended
The Feast. It was such a light feeling after attending it. I feel like I have
surrendered everything to the Lord.
After attending the mass, of course we went out for
dinner. But days before that, I actually told Ayel to plan out something
different this time. I think I specifically told him to surprise me with the
plan he will make. So while having dinner, he handed over something to me.
Unsure of what it was, I asked him. Then he told me that it was a scrap book
and I will do something later. I was actually a little mad at him because I
told him that it was supposed to be something that we will be doing together.
But he said that he did his part and later on I will do mine. So after grabbing
dinner, we went to Mrs. Field and he ordered ice cream for his dessert. Then he
made me open the scrapbook. He told me that it was a game where I should answer
all of it. The first part where
questions about facts mostly about our firsts such as the first fruit I gave
him, first movie we watched together, the words in his first ever email to me,
etc. The second part of the game was inspired by the popular game then, 4 pics
word, where there were four pictures and one should guess that word that is
related to all four pictures. But for his own version, there was only 1 picture
but there were drawings on the side, letter boxes and scrambled letters so I
can have a clue to what the words were. I remember our first photo together,
our photo singing with a live band, and a collage of our photos together and in
the middle it was written Happy 109th day! (History: He has been
counting the day since we first met). The last photo was hard to answer despite
him giving me additional clues. So I decided to go to the last game. It was
written there: “It’s up to you if you’ll continue…”. It was actually a riddle
which I was able to answer days after our date. So I had to skip that and go
back to the last photo. When I was able to answer (which took me about 30
minutes or so)… and told me I was right, I wrote something on the page next to
the riddle (still leaving the riddle unanswered). I wrote “Dear Ayel” and drew
three boxes for him to answer. I gave the scrapbook to him and told me to
answer it. He did not get it at first. Then when he realized he asked me first
in a very loud voice “YES?!!!!”… then I nodded and he wrote the word yes to the
boxes and drew a heart! He still asked me “Talaga (really)?” as he could not
believe it. He got up and hugged me. When we decided to leave, he extended his
hand to me and finally he held my hand for the first time. We strolled a bit
more and asked him if he could ditch his other plan since we had something to
celebrate. So he called up his friend to tell him that something came up and he
was going to tell him after. We called our friend who introduced us to each
other and told her the good news. After that, we told our parents as well while
we are at a ferris wheel – our celebratory ride. (hahahaha!)
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The Bribe: Dinner. |
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Then I said yes. |
Just wanted to add here that I had a little stint of
being a muse at our company’s basketball league because it is not something I
usually do. In fact, in the countless times I have been asked to participate in
something that would require me to wear make-up, I would definitely say no. But
now that I have gained a little bit of confidence and lost some of my baby
fats, I have agreed to be the muse. Thank you to my supportive girlfriends who
made me up for the event and for my loving boyfriend who accompanied me in this
event. Probably our first date after I said yes.
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His muse.
May – The first
work travel.
Only a few people are privilege to travel for work on
their second year and I am truly thankful to be one of those few people. On May
8, I was bound to leave for Manila for a month to do a migration of processes
from Manila to Mumbai. It was no easy job as knowledge transfers are
challenging enough to begin with to do with a colleague in Manila and it would
be much harder to do it knowing that there will be cultural differences which
will be exemplified through the practices and ethics at work. But we were lucky enough to have trainees who are
smart and quick to learn so the job was made a little bit easy for us trainers.
Aside from work, we got to experience a royal kind of
treatment as we were in car service during the weekdays and we were living in a
hotel for a month which means buffet breakfast and dinner, everyday bath tub,
sauna, gym and spa, pool, room services etc. It was such a great experience!
Additional bonus was that the service crew of the hotel was so accommodating.
They were very friendly and would usually ask us if we would want something
different that was not served on the buffet table because they know we were a
bit tired of eating the same food.
On the last week of our stay in Mumbai, we flew to New
Delhi to experience one of the seven wonders of the world – The Taj Mahal. It
was really beautiful and majestic! It gets even more beautiful once you get
closer to it as you would see the
intricate details of the grand temple. This was something I really appreciate
about the India, they see the big picture and the very details – the same way
about how they are with work. Also, they
are still very attached to their culture which is what we Filipinos are
lacking. We have grown so much into modernism that we tend to forget where we
came from. Advancement and progression would usually mean letting go of what we
used to do which is not the case in India. This might be something we
Filipinos, should think about.
Resting.
My Signature Pose at Taj.
The over-all experience of work travel has made me
want it to do in the long run. I like the idea of being independent. I love
meeting new people and getting to understand their culture and upbringing. I
want to travel some more (without having to spend so much). Travel is one of
the best learning experiences. I get to expand my horizon and get to experience
new and exciting things that life has to offer. Initially then, I never liked
travelling because it was costly that I would rather invest it on something
more beneficial, it requires a lot of
planning, and it was time consuming. But all those things have changed. There
are a lot of things that travelling offers that gets somebody’s every centavo
worth it. That is why I want to do it more in the coming years!
June – To the next level.
While I was doing the migration in India, it gets tougher
as I was also prepping up for my promotion. Promotion in our company is not
something just given to you because you deserve it. It is rather, you apply for
it because you think you deserve it. The company is serious when it comes to
saying that we, the employees, are the drivers our own career. So I applied,
and I had to prepare myself for the series of interview. I was nervous. I was
doing a migration and getting myself promoted. That was tough.
But gladly, after all the hardwork put through the
application process, I passed. My manager told me while I was still in Mumbai.
From an analyst role, I am now an associate which means higher expectations and
more positive results.
With my new team and now an associate.
After the migration and promotion, comes the new role.
I came to Manila in June 8 and reported back to work in June 10. In June 12, I
was also training for another team – my new team. I did not expect it to be so
soon as I we were still expected to support the Mumbai team for at least a
month. But there were resource issues so they had to get me to replace someone
immediately. Training was quick as the one resigning will be leaving in the
middle of July. So I only had a little over 1 month to train. Good thing, my
trainer was good and I picked it up quickly and had a quick transition to my
new team.
Aside from this good news, I also got to celebrate our
first month and Ayel’s birthday immediately got back from Mumbai. I just
dropped off my luggage and took a shower and went to meet up with Ayel. It was
his 24th birthday on May 19
and our first month together on May 28. So to make it up to him, I had a simple
surprise for him. I arranged everything while I was in Mumbai. Aside from the
gift I have for him, I also gave him a surprise photoshoot. All he knew was we
were going to have dinner together. But when he saw me I was with Byron and
Eica – another couple who happened to be the photographer and the make-up
artist. Byron and Eica were surprised at how spontaneous Ayel was behind the
lens! They told me that it seems like Ayel was not surprised at all and had himself
prepare for the shoot!
Photoshoot.
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July – Let’s
go local.
As I have mentioned earlier, 2013 is my year. A big
chunk of my year goes to travelling. Now I have been to USA and India, it’s
time to go local: my first time to beach bum at the famous Boracay. I had
booked myself a trip going to the island with my friends with my first team.
But I had to rebook it because of India. So I had it rebooked without having
any company yet. I initially thought of inviting Guy and Allen but they had
something else planned. But Guy told me that the volleyball team was planning to
go to Boracay. Therefore, I had it rebooked yet to another date!
The Mandatory Jump Shot.
The Mermaid pose.
It was a perfect timing as I felt the need to go on a
break and to reward myself after all the things I have gone through the past 2
months. And good thing that Boracay did not fail to amaze me. I fell in love
with the beach. It was perfect as there were only a few people so we really got
to enjoy the island very well. There was
a time where I had to leave the group and have my alone time. I lie down on
shore and ordered a cocktail and just enjoyed whatever it was there to see!
Definitely one of the best vacations!
August –
RUN.
Nothing much has happened during this month. It was
more of getting stable with my new team and re-thinking of my long term plans.
The earlier months, there are a lot of things I cannot control. I can influence
but not fully control. That is why I believe I have resorted to running. It’s
something I can decide on my own – whether to go fast, to stop, to go 10
kilometers, etc. I felt like this is the one thing that I have the power that I
can fully call my own. Whenever I have the free time, I run. No matter how late
it is, I push myself to do more. Because I believe I owe it to my body. Running
is not a mere sport. I consider it as a lifestyle… a lifestyle backed by goals.
These are goals which of course surround to doing more and much better.
Running photos.
September - My 23rd year.
Yaaay! It’s my birthday month! I spent it running! Well, only in the morning
of course. I registered myself to a fun run called “Battle of the Sexes”. It’s
actually one of my favorite runs to date being the feminist that I am. Though
of course, I did not compete as I am not that quick yet. I am no Kenyan runner.
I was joined by my friends Joyce, Mae Cathy and Mae’s family! These people are not
so much into running but they did it as their birthday gift for me.
Birthday Run: (L-R) Tita Amy, Cathy, Mae, Joyce, Me, and Ate Dyca.
Got up at 3:30 am to make to my 4:30 gun start at Mall
of Asia. But when I checked my phone, there were 16 missed calls from Ayel…
probably trying to greet me at midnight. But I already told him that I was
going to sleep early because of my run. Then I texted him good morning and
thanked him for the greeting. Then, after a while someone was knocking at my
door. He was there with balloons and cake! He told me he has been trying to
call me so he could surprise me at midnight. He even asked some of his friends
to come along. But sadly, I was sleeping. This happened during their hectic
schedule of finals week so this gesture is pretty much sweet. He dropped me off
to my race and he then went back to his condo to catch up on some sleep.
After my run, it was Cathy and I who were left to have
an early breakfast because the others had something planned for the rest of the
day. We went to Vern and had some breakfast with her as well. It was quite a
simple birthday morning for me which I fully enjoyed.
As soon as I got back to my condo, I opened Ayel’s
gift. It was a cookbook and a lot of notes from our friends wishing me a happy
birthday. One of the most treasured birthday notes and text messages came from
my parents and Ayel’s parents. After which, I called home and had a facetime
chat with them as I cannot go home anymore. I did not manage to catch some
sleep anymore as the day was too exciting for me to even close my eyes. So I
decided to finally use the gift card my Frankfurt team gave my for my birthday
last 2012. I indulged myself to a very luxurious spa that I felt like it was
too much massage for a person in a day. But nonetheless, it was very relaxing.
I met up with Ayel for mass and a quick dinner to cap
off my birthday celebration.
First and last meeting for my day.
Aside from my awesome birthday, my girlfriends finally had to a chance to do an out of town trip. It's our first and we are looking forward for more!
Pajama Party.
October –
More running.
I am getting
used to this. I am getting good at this.
The company had this global initiative of Run Row Ride
where employees will have to log kilometers/time they have put in doing a sports
activity. I was chosen to lead one of the daily runs for the whole month of
October. I am actually honored to have been chosen because I am now getting
recognized in another field other than volleyball. Though the Manila leg was
not that successful, the smaller teams were through their own organized runs
which I am also very privileged to be invited to lead. I was able to lead one
team outside of my own and another of my own team.
One GME Run. My Team.
MCC, FINCON and VSG Run.
Aside from running, the sports committee had also
organized a circuit training for employees which I also participated in. It was
definitely one of the most challenging physical activities I have had in years!
The last time was during my college years on our ROTC hell day. But there will
always be something good to take out of every experience. Aside from knowing to
self that I can push myself to do more, I was also able to meet new people.
They were Ron and Pau. Coach Ron, as I call him, used to be a fat guy who
struggled into getting himself thinner through marathons and circuit trainings.
Pau is the fitness queen as she is one of the girls in circuit training who can
finish the workout the most proper execution.
First Circuit Training
Team Takbo (L-R): Ron, Me, Pau and Tristan
Coach Ron has been pushing me to do better especially
in terms of my statistics in running. Before, I used to just run it and hope
for the best. Now, there is always a very specific goal. There are days where
he will say that we will just have an easy run. Then we would converse during
the run and before you know it, we ran 10 kilometers already. My best time so far
for a 10-kilometer run is 1 hour and 1 minute coming from a 1 hour and 26
minutes in April 2013 during my first 10k.
I have definitely achieved a lot with his structured program for me. He
even made a 21-km program already and pushing me to do it in February 2014.
He’s excited for it! And I am scared. I told him that what he is doing for me
is too much already. He’s been giving me some of his running accessories and
he’s been training with me at 7:30pm even his shift ends at 4pm. Then he said
to me that before he became a marathoner, someone was also doing the same thing
for him and that I should also do the same act to someone who needs help when
it comes to running. I would always remember Coach Ron believing in me. He told
me that he saw a great potential in me when he saw me doing the circuit
training because he saw how tired I was that I was closed to giving up but I
was still doing the workout.
First 10-km training with Coach Ron.
November –
More local!
Travel again! This time in Cebu and Bohol. It’s my
first time to go and I am being toured by the Cebu lovers Jay and Magda. But
something really different about this trip is that we were joined in by our
Frankfurt colleague, Chris! It was definitely such a great experience because
it was my first time to meet Chris and I am happy that we are able to bond even
just for a week. Though Bohol was a bit destroyed due to the 7.2 magnitude
earthquake that hit the place a month before our trip, we still saw the beauty
that Bohol offers, especially the famous Chocolate Hills and the smallest
monkey, the tarsier. And in Cebu, we did not go around much anymore as Chris
was easily exhausted so we did a lot of eating and made him try all the local
food like halo-halo, otap, polvoron, sisig, pansit, crispy pata, longganisa,
and a lot more.
Cebu was like Manila to me, only less stressful and
less expensive to live in. I told Jay and Magda that I will definitely go back
to go see the beautiful beaches of Cebu and eat more lechon!
Panglao,Bohol.
German folk loves Philippines.
The Gang.
December –
Another challenge
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DKS People Committee 2014: We are ready. |
The final month and it does not mean lesser exciting
things happen.
As I officially step down as the co-head of the
volleyball group, I was given a new challenge which is also an honor given to
me. I was chosen to be one of the heads of one of the pillars of the DKS People
Committee 2014. I am co-heading the Socials pillar which will cater to 4 big
events of 2000-people. I have never imagined myself managing something big as
this that is why I immediately said yes to asked. I asked Yong, the previous
head of the DKS People Committee and also a good friend, how we were chosen
because it was the same question my manager asked me when I brought it up to
her. Yong said that it was not something intuitive. It was laying down who has
contributed in 2013 to the success of People Committee. I am definitely touched
to the thought that I must have done something really great to be put in this
big role. Yong has even told me that a lot of managers have been asking me to
put their talents to this committee but he always refuse because most of the
time, according to him, these managers just wanted their people to be famous
and they tend to forget that to be in this committee is no easy job. He told me
that handling people committee is like a small business where you have a budget,
legal and compliance, security, logistics, etc. I have been doing this actually
with the volleyball group but this time, it will be in a wider scope as it is
now company-wide.
This new challenge is really important to me as I am
an advocate of work-life balance. I was actually happy and proud when I told
the news that I was joining the people committee to my manager and she told me
that she’s glad and there is no doubt that I am her work-life balance champion
in the team (History: I am the Socials/Engagement head in 2013 in my team of 70
people). This kind of work is really something I look forward to. It’s like
being in a school again where you have studies and you have extra-curricular
activities. It makes going to school, this time to work, more exciting to which
I also hope to make others feel.
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It has been a great year for me. It does not need to be perfect for it to be wonderful. Definitely a lot of lessons learned, new people met, and places traveled. It's really the experience that one carries on to a new year, whether good or bad. 2014 will definitely be another challenging year but I am up for it always hoping for the best.