Is there really a rule when it comes to dating? Or maybe I have set my own rules or standards based on the things I grew up with which are mostly romantic-chessy movies or series.
Recently, I have considered the dating culture of Americans because it is so upfront. A friend told me, who happened to live in US for 4 years, that when a guy likes you he'll ask you on a date and if it worked (which means there is attraction) you will go on a second date otherwise there wouldn't be. It is that simple. Unlike here in the Philippines, you have to play the neverending guessing game with the guy you are dating. I couldn't blame our very conservative culture because I couldn't change what has been. I guess what people can do (or what the people have been doing) is adjust because no matter what the culture dictates, the character of the person prevails.
So back to my question, when would you know? Say you almost have it all there to call it a relationship but when people ask you about what you are to each other or how you are you just say "wala pa e" or "hindi pa e". Is it too lame to call each other friends when you both know you mean more than that to each other?
I am not in a hurry, though I never liked waiting. I just told him I wanted to be sure with this and that it is too early for us to be really together. But what has been bothering me is the current situation. Yes, let us call it the "label" issue. Some people may say that not all things should be labeled but I am different. I want to know what things are because I want to have a clear picture and definition in my head. It is just more comfortable for me in that way.
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