When would you know?

Is there really a rule when it comes to dating? Or maybe I have set my own rules or standards based on the things I grew up with which are mostly romantic-chessy movies or series.

Recently, I have considered the dating culture of Americans because it is so upfront. A friend told me, who happened to live in US for 4 years, that when a guy likes you he'll ask you on a date and if it worked (which means there is attraction) you will go on a second date otherwise there wouldn't be. It is that simple. Unlike here in the Philippines, you have to play the neverending guessing game with the guy you are dating. I couldn't blame our very conservative culture because I couldn't change what has been. I guess what people can do (or what the people have been doing) is adjust because no matter what the culture dictates, the character of the person prevails.

So back to my question, when would you know? Say you almost have it all there to call it a relationship but when people ask you about what you are to each other or how you are you just say "wala pa e" or "hindi pa e". Is it too lame to call each other friends when you both know you mean more than that to each other?

I am not in a hurry, though I never liked waiting. I just told him I wanted to be sure with this and that it is too early for us to be really together. But what has been bothering me is the current situation. Yes, let us call it the "label" issue. Some people may say that not all things should be labeled but I am different. I want to know what things are because I want to have a clear picture and definition in my head. It is just more comfortable for me in that way.

How I have been after almost 2 months.

It is 9:23 in the morning. Came in at 6. Done with morning processes. Waiting for one system to do other work. And then I decided to post a blog. It's been a while. I have been swamped with work. Last May, I had the most number of hours for overtime. But it should take into consideration the adjustment and/or the transition from school to office setting. Also, I should not forget all the system and access problems since my computer is literally empty when I got here.

But now, the earliest time I got to finish work was 11 am. It was yesterday. Maybe I got the hang of doing my work and there weren't issues anymore. It was really great because the target of the team is to really lessen OT hours of employees since they do not want to make slaves out of us. It was really different from where I have done my internship because in one of the conversations of my boss, she told me that one employee wasn't staying longer for work when almost everyone was staying up late to finish work. I guess it wasn't great for them to know that someone from their team is going home after finishing the usual 8-hour shift. But in Deutsche, they encourage you to finish work on the dot because it is so important that we, employees, have work-life balance. Two-thumbs up for Deutsche! : )

Work is relatively easy in our team because it is the "entry level" team. After 4 months or so, we will be deployed to other team doing the real work. As I see work in my team, it serves as a training so we can do much better once deployed. It is a good training because I get to know the sense of all the courses, specifically options and valuations, in college.


Aside from work, I got to meet a lot of people. It was so easy to gel with them. Though I was never a fan of changes, it was so great to have met them. : ) One thing more, in Deutsche we get to have allowance per team where we could spend it on fostering. I do not know if we are pushing through today considering the weather but we are supposed to have a dinner out tonight for our fostering. But yeah, it is so great that the company has people values. : )

I do enjoy work but I cannot truly say that this is the career path I want to take. But it is too early to tell so we shall see. I promise a post in 2 years regarding this. : )